Category Archives: Domino Principle #1: Deceptive Perceptions

The Destructive Dominoes of Domestic Abuse

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“All too often women believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love, to endure unkindness or cruelty, to forgive and forget. In actuality, when we love rightly we know that the healthy, loving response to cruelty and abuse is putting ourselves out of harm’s way.” ― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions. Graphic via theasianparent.com.

It is heartbreaking when someone we know is on the receiving end of a psychologically abusive relationship. This article details the terror that those experiencing such abuse endure, and provides some strategies for gaining self-awareness and dealing with the situation.

I have augmented my own personal observations with content borrowed heavily from the references listed at the end of this article.

What is Domestic Violence?

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Domestic violence, both psychological and physical, is a pattern of intentional coercive behavior used to establish and maintain control over an intimate partner, ex-partner, or family member through fear or intimidation. Continue Reading >>

Ultron, Spirituality, and String Theory, Metaphorically Speaking

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Are we all puppets, tangled in strings? One of the lessons that Pinocchio taught us is that our quest to identify and then remove the irrational strings that bind us is invariably tied to our need to understand and remove the lies and distortions that we tell ourselves.

“The lover’s power is the poet’s power. He can make love from all the common strings with which this world is strung.”-Amelia Barr

Seeing the movie Avengers: Age of Ultron last week was a Stark reminder of how terribly I’d failed my ex-girlfriend. I had loved her. Sadly, in a truly deep and spiritual way, I had failed her. And it has taken me much reflection to understand and face the true nature of that failure along with its repercussions.

We’ll come back to this discussion at the end of this essay, but for now, I’ll just mention what any good entrepreneur knows: that a failure only remains one if we are unable to turn it into a learning opportunity. The learning opportunity that came out of that experience has led me to be able to write this article for you today; one that I hope will bring you a degree of insight into your own life. Continue Reading >>

Guns and Dominoes: Let’s Play Global Thermonuclear War!

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 “As in life, when playing dominoes the points of light are what matter, not the surrounding blank. Look for the dots of goodness in the world and an impressive pattern of possibilities emerges. It is here the game is won.”  –M. Daniel Nickle

Did you know that there are 55 different techniques of faulty reasoning and distortion that people use when they try to convince you of something that isn’t necessarily true or factual?

Do you know how to identify these faulty reasoning techniques so you don’t get swindled? Continue Reading >>

“Yeah! Dominoes, bitch!”

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A fallen Domino. “You’re the smartest guy I ever met, and you’re too stupid to see — he made up his mind 10 minutes ago.” Hank Schrader to Walter White, Breaking Bad, “Ozymandias.” Photo via AMC.

Do you ever lie to yourself? Yeah, I do. Plenty.

Yesterday we introduced Domino Principle #1, the principle of Deceptive Perceptions, quoting Richard Feynman stating: “The First Principle is that you must not fool yourself, and you are the easiest person to fool.”

I’m a fairly smart fellow. And sometimes I’m really good at not lying to myself. But I’d be lying to myself if I didn’t admit… for every time I’ve been good at not deceiving myself about something that is important, I could probably point out another instance where I’ve failed to let myself see a truth sitting right in front of me. Not deceiving myself is something I’m working at getting better at doing, each and every day. Continue Reading >>

True Lies! Richard Feynman & Domino Principle #1: Deceptive Perceptions

feynman_first_princ2The 10 Domino Principles provide a framework for taking control of our lives and businesses, navigating the present, and shaping an exceptional future. Over time, I am introducing and applying the 10 Domino Principles through articles on this blog. Today we are going to delve into Domino Principle #1, the principle of Deceptive Perceptions.

As my old friend Mr. Spock said: “In critical moments men sometimes see exactly what they wish to see” and “Humans do have an amazing capacity for believing what they choose — and excluding that which is painful.” Continue Reading >>